A9 Goal Setting

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• Setting targets within the coaching experience: Inorder to get somewhere, u need to know where ur going. Alice in Wonderland: Alice and the Cat: Quotes: Alice in WonderlandAlice: Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?The Cat: That depends a good deal on where you want to get toAlice: I don't much care where.The Cat: Then it doesn't much matter which way you go. It’s essential for our clients to know where they want to get to, what they want to achieve, some of our goals are put to us by other ppl or pressure to ourselves trying to be something that wer not.

1. EXACT Model
   1. Exciting

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      • A postive goal will trigger something in ur brain RAS that will bring coincidence into your pathway, if ur goal is exciting
   2. Assessable

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      • the more difficult is helping them the sp point when their goal has been reached. the more identifiable the measure the more inspiring the goal will be. the goal is not trully motivting unless with a meausre. a common pitfall is that the goal is more about the journey rather than the dewstination. ask a simple Qs: ‘what will be the result of? ‘ what tangible difference?’ ‘ what do u want to achieve by this’ ‘could u help me as ur coach how would i know when u get to it?’ ‘ u can ask for a comparitive measure: ‘as energetic as i was on 21’ ‘ what is the % of u feeling good at urself?’ ‘ what would u like the % to be?’ a goal like ‘reaching size 10’ not motivating enough throught the journey of suffering and hunger but ud better say’ i would be shining in my new red dress’ A truly motivating goal is not trully motivating until it has the structure of a clear measuring goal. A goal without a measure is a dream not a trget
   3. Challenging

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      • clients tend to set goals that are limited to their self beliefs ‘if all obstacles removed, what would ur goal be?’ ‘what is it that u really want?’ ‘ what can u gie urself permission to achieve?’ ‘can u tell me whats ur mission statement for life?’ ‘ is it urs or someone elses’ ‘if not urs then whose is it?’ ‘ what do u know about ur mission statement? ‘what would u like ur mission statemnt to be?’ what if ur client couldnt achieve his goal? it is hardly ever a problem. because of the new discoveries of ur client alone the jorney. is just as valuable as thier goal in the first place.
   4. Time bound

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      • ideal period is 12 weeks: 6 weeks for old habbit and 6 to ingrain a new one. but if they see u once a month, then a 6 months goal would be more efective.
2. 2 criteria of goal setting process
   1. single focus

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      • u have to find one focus that will cover all the others. if u cant, then u have to divide the goal into several separate goals. ask the client to consider roughly the pathway required for each goal. if the actions in each pathway are similar, then the 2 goals can be one. but if different, then ur looking in 2 separate goals. because each goal needs a single focus.
   2. Succinct

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      • (Briefly and clearly expressed) a goal of few words act as a mantra (a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of "creating transformation) to be more encouraging, not to be hardly memorable. short snapping goals are much more engaging in the RAS that anything else.
3. Difference between EXACT & SMART

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   • SMART used often to set learning objectives, but can result in –ve goal client goals are often limited by lack of confidence. no client will set a goal too high, hence the need for a model that is exciting and challenging. but for managers in corporates, they aim high, so the need for the element realistic. the person being coached has to own the goal himslef.
   1. Managers in corporates, they aim high, so z need for z element realistic.
   2. Goals r often limited by lack of confidence.hence z need 4 a model thats excitin & challengin
4. RAS
   1. +ve goals trigger RAS

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      • have u ever bought a new car and while driving home u find all other cars just like ur car? RAS clicks in. 99 % of everything that bombard u all the time allow u to notice only things that are relative to u. if u identify goals attractive to u, the RAS will throw oppotunities. if clients goal is to be in a dream career, RAS will click in woth ur goals. common technique for golfers, immagine themselves hitting the ball, see the ball hitting th trget, applause from spectators, mind cant diff fact and fiction. imagine the winning shot, its easier to immitate behaviour than to do it for the first time. ask client to focus on future reality, wht he will see, feel, reactions, forge neuro pathway for brain. help them to tap in RAS