ROADBLOCKS & OBSTACLES

Definition
-Something that makes it difficult to do something, that blocks your way or hinders progress, an object to go over or under

Identifying with someone gets you on the same level, creates a unique relationship, let's them know they are not alone and stops isolation. Lets them know that they are not defined by the obstacle, that they are still who they are.

Kinds of Obstacles

Energy Drainers

2 Kinds
- Annoyances
---small things that build up over time
---dishes, disorganized room/desk etc.

- Chronic Complaints
---recurring significant issues
---ie: health management, time management

ADDRESSING ENERGY DRAINERS

Step 1: Identify
-list your annoyances and chronic complaints
-do so for each area of your life (work, home, family, finances, etc)

Step 2: Count the Cost
-What are energy drainers costing you?
-Determine if the cost is worth the drain

Step 3: Do Something
-Commit to changing something in your life if the cost is not worth the drain it's causing

4 STEPS TO CHANGE

1. Find a Strategy:
Different strategies work for different people; use trial and error to find the right strategy for you

2. Don't Waste Unnecessary Energy:
Once a strategy has been implemented, many energy drainers simply take care of themselves

3. Neutralize Energy Drainers:
Take one step at a time, take an energy drainers power away by remembering that every positive step no matter how small is still a positive step.

4. Learn From The Experience:
Remember that no experience is ever wasted so long as we learn from it

SELF ACTUALIZATION

Definition: "The process of establishing oneself as a whole person, able to develop ones abilities and to understand oneself"

From a Christian perspective, "Self-Actualization" should be understood as the process of understanding who one is in relationship with God.
-It is only form this perspective that a person can be established as whole.
-Key is to know what that looks like in the coaching relationship

NEEDS

Acknowledge That You Have Needs
---identify needs by tracking emotions
---be careful not to mistake a desire(want) for a need

Identify 5 Greatest Needs at This Time
---security needs
---power and influence needs
---achievement/attainment needs
---intimacy needs, relationship/connection needs

Determine How You're Currently Meeting Needs
---organize and rate needs in categories from Chapter 8 (Menendez)
---List ways you currently are meeting or not meeting your needs

Find Healthy Ways To Meet Your Needs
---Determine what the need actually is, and not just what it feels like
---Make a list of how you might meet each need in a better - or at least different - way

	Created by heinrichs.mark over 10 years ago

First Year SBC CO205 Life Coaching Note on November 7th-2013, created by heinrichs.mark on 07/11/2013.